Mr. Hopeless

Dear Lainey,

I fear I may have just messed up a friendship big-time and I dont know what to do. You see I have been hopelessly in love with a friend for some time now, there are two problems, the first that I am painfully shy, the second she has a boyfriend.

I've never said anything to her, despite her boyfriend being an arrogant pig, because I was, well scared of what she would say, and scared of ruining a friendship and making a fool of myself.

Well last night we were hanging out, and I may have been a little drunk, and I may have finally come clean about my feelings to her.

I woke up this morning mortified at the recollection of what Id said to her. Now I'm scared she will hate me and never talk to me again, so do you have any advice for Mr. Hopeless?

Dear Mr Hopeless,

Well, for a start, let me tell you, there are few things in life that are truly hopeless. You may feel that way now, given the weight of evidence your self-doubt hits you with, but the impression I get of you is one of a caring, thoughtful individual, who just maybe needs a little more self confidence.

To your immediate problem, you and your friend need to have a talk.  It sounds like you have put off that conversation for a very long time, and now after some dutch courage has caused you to blurt it out, you need to find some courage from within your heart and face up to the next conversation that needs to be had.

Don't be scared, you've already put your heart on the line, now you need to clear the air with your friend before you can move forward. You are friends for a reason, so unless she is a callous heartless woman, (sadly there are a few) I am sure she will be more than happy to talk this through with you.

Let me know how you get on...and remember, no drinking before hand, no matter how good an idea it seems at the time. You can have a drink afterwards if you really need to, with luck you will be sharing a drink with your friend.

Best wishes

~ Lainey x ~